Shidduch Crisis - The New Solution

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 We are not here to debate the moral or hashkafic validity of the new solution, only to discuss its practibility and other possible solutions.

The new solution says boys will come back from Eretz Yisrael 6 months earlier and the girls will go out only a year after they come back.

We tend to believe that the new solution will not be the final solution - social engineering rarely works. There is a chance that the few yeshivos whose bachurim were actually leaving fourth year Pesach and will now leave Sukkos - which my understanding is that this is not many yeshivos - will have some bachurim come back to America earlier too. Many more will just stay in Eretz Yisrael. All in all, basically only a few people from a few yeshivos will be affected.

And on the girls front it ain't that much better. There's no simple eitzah that's both normal and practical to force the girls not out for a year. There are also many spiritual and mental pitfalls in the girls being free of a structured, spiritual framework for a year without being in shidduchim.

Many benefits are to be had if boys would start school a lot younger. However, it is hard to predict the pitfalls. Is it worth the chance? Maybe the question should at least be posed to gedolim?

Is there perhaps also a lot to be gained by teaching the girls that they don't need the "top" boy? Rav Reuven Feinstein puts a big emphasis on this.

Comments

  1. Back For A Year And ShteigingMarch 2, 2025 at 9:13 PM

    What makes you think there are spiritual pitfalls in girls waiting?

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  2. AnonymousMarch 3, 2025 at 4:46 AM

    What are the spiritual pitfalls of being a complainer and a hypercritical person?

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  3. AnonymousMarch 3, 2025 at 1:43 PM

    Why don't bachurim want to come back until age 23?
    Isn't it obvious that BMG is the real source of the problem?
    Clearly, bachurim dread entering BMG.

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  4. AnonymousMarch 3, 2025 at 1:47 PM

    This whole idea doesn't make sense.
    But the chances of it working are too low to actually care.

    It is being run and pushed by people who are usually on the losing side, people who know how to make noise but not see things through.

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